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I'm a trans man

Posted: Sun May 27, 2018 10:50 am
by cookie
(I hope this is in the right section, otherwise I'm sorry.)

Hey guys. Don't really know what more to write. Technically, the title already says everything. I'm a boy. I've felt it from a young age, but I didn't know what to do with that feeling. I had been taught that gender is defined by... you guessed it. What's down there. But even back in primary school, I insisted on being a boy. People didn't understand. My parents tried to convince me how great it was to grow up to be a woman. Whenever anybody asked me if I was a girl or a boy (yes, strangers do that) I felt terrible. I couldn't lie, but it felt wrong.
Later on, in grammar school, I desperately tried to be like the other girls, move like them, talk like them, have female role models. It didn't work. That feeling came back again and again. I was close to coming out a few times, but didn't realize that I actually could. Sometimes I started to feel quite comfortable being a girl. Or had I just given up? I thought I had to leave it behind, I was never going to be a man. I put on make-up, wore dresses and forgot about it. Until I somehow couldn't do it anymore.
One day, a good friend asked me "You sure you aren't a man?" - "No. Not sure at all." I had been shopping in the men's section for years, I had been covering my long hair for a while and I started doing my research.
About a year ago, I finally came out to my family and friends. Reactions were mixed, but mostly positive. Although I'm not always entirely sure what I am even doing there, I don't regret it. And I'm unbelievably happy to get this off my chest.

tl,dr: the title says everything you need to know. I would like to be addressed as "he".

Re: I'm a trans man

Posted: Mon May 28, 2018 1:57 am
by vowlvom
Hey cookie! Good for you. Thanks for sharing this with us.

Re: I'm a trans man

Posted: Mon May 28, 2018 11:43 am
by rone rivendale
No judgement here. Just be good at the song making thing. :)

Re: I'm a trans man

Posted: Mon May 28, 2018 7:34 pm
by Jerkatorium
Thank you for posting, I'm glad that you did. I admire your strength and courage, and of course I admire your musical talents too (so hey, make more music).

Re: I'm a trans man

Posted: Sat Jun 02, 2018 5:10 pm
by Pigfarmer Jr
I feel that it takes a lot of courage and strength to be true to yourself and your story especially so.

Re: I'm a trans man

Posted: Sat Jun 02, 2018 10:45 pm
by fluffy
Oh hey, congratulations on feeling comfortable enough with yourself and with this community to come out. It can be such a great feeling, even if you don't know what you're going to do with it yet.

Also it's nice to see another openly trans person here. :)

Re: I'm a trans man

Posted: Mon Jun 04, 2018 4:18 pm
by rone rivendale
fluffy wrote: Also it's nice to see another openly trans person here. :)
I actually didn't know, but that's kewl.